I firmly believe that once you start working on yourself, everything around you begins to fall into place

I firmly believe that once you start working on yourself, everything around you begins to fall into place

My mission as a Life Coach and a Healer is to help people come out of toxic relationships, find inner peace, achieve true independence and reclaim power

Neha Gupta

Relationship Coach

Healer

Life Coach

New Delhi

Instagram ID: neha_therelationshipcoach

Email: coachneha05@gmail.com

Contact: 9667558952

Our readers would like to know about your educational background, qualifications and consequent achievements.

I was born and brought up in Delhi. I completed my schooling as a commerce student at Holy Child Sr. Sec. School, and immediately pursued Chartered Accountancy as a profession while also completing an Honors degree from Delhi University. Later, I became certified as an Image Consultant and Soft Skills Trainer. However, my heart belonged elsewhere, and eventually, it led me into the world of healing and life coaching. Now, as a relationship coach, I assist people, especially women, in breaking free from toxic relationships, finding inner peace, achieving true independence, and reclaiming their power.

What were the reasons you switched your professional career from the corporate world as a chartered accountant to a relationship coach?

As an individual, I always craved freedom and believed in pursuing my passions. Even after becoming a Chartered Accountant, for which I am grateful, and serving in one of the leading IT companies, I never found peace. I always felt incomplete, sensing something was missing. I didn’t enjoy my work there and felt burdened by those missing elements.

I was certain this wasn’t my calling, which led me to take the most drastic step I could imagine: resigning from my corporate job without a second thought, wondering what to do next. I researched extensively, pursued various courses to prepare for entrepreneurship, and simultaneously obtained certifications as an Image Consultant and Soft Skills Trainer. The more I explored, the more restless I became.

All of this led me to first focus on improving my relationship with myself. As I delved into working on my mindset, my relationships, and my wounds, I realized that this might be where my true calling lay.

Today, here I am as a relationship coach, helping people improve not only their relationships with others but also with themselves. I firmly believe that once you start working on yourself, everything around you begins to fall into place.

What are your priorities as a life coach, how much it is challenging for you?

My priority as a Life Coach is to help people discover their mission and vision in life. I assist them in identifying what they want from life, where their passions lie, and how they can cultivate fulfilling relationships, even in toxic environments. I also guide them in building self-love, as in today’s world, we often judge ourselves based on others’ perceptions, losing sight of our authentic selves. I help clients recognize their strengths and the core values that can propel them forward in any endeavour.

Dealing with people can be challenging, as some may not be ready to acknowledge the need for inner work. I strive to help them understand that their outer world is a reflection of their inner state. However, it’s understandable; societal conditioning, particularly in India where mental health education is lacking, contributes to this resistance. Thus, part of my role involves educating individuals on the importance of mental health and how emotional well-being facilitates personal growth, evolution, and manifestation.

Educating and raising awareness about the significance of mental health can be challenging, particularly in the context of pursuing a career in life coaching.

What are the common symptoms of mental health issues to be diagnosed?

Feeling sad for no reason, feeling lonely even when surrounded by people, and feeling overwhelmed most of the time – depression is one of the major issues people are facing nowadays, often unaware that they are depressed. Struggling to complete even daily chores is a clear indication that something needs attention. Living in a state of constant crying, complaining, and taking things too personally are just small signs that can lead to something bigger. You may feel lonely, and isolated, and believe it’s you against everyone – your family, your loved ones. You may feel unloved, unheard, and unseen.

You may adopt a victim mentality, blaming others for the challenges and situations in your life. Feeling overwhelmed most of the time, with too much on your plate, often leads to procrastination. Feeling chaotic most of the time, with no internal stability, you may be bombarded by unwanted thoughts, becoming an overthinker.

In the present scenario of modern lifestyle, all age groups are suffering from depression and anxiety. What are the basic reasons for this?

The primary underlying reason for all these problems lies in how we are conditioned as individuals. It largely depends on the conditioning we receive as children, whether from our parents, teachers, or society as a whole. I am not placing blame on anyone, but we are conditioned to compete against each other, constantly comparing ourselves based on material possessions or the number of degrees we hold.

The major cause of depression and anxiety, regardless of age group, often stems from the burden of societal norms. From childhood, we are expected to achieve high marks, pursue specific degrees, earn certain incomes, marry by a certain age, and have children. Society has defined everything, leaving many of us racing towards undefined purposes, unaware of our true calling. When our actions don’t align with our true purpose, depression and anxiety can arise.

These societal pressures impact our careers, relationships, social lives, and overall health, including our physical, emotional, and mental well-being, often leading to depression.

We need to stop competing with each other and start listening to our hearts. Pursue wealth, but do what you love. Wait for the right partner before marriage, or choose not to marry at all. Decide whether or not to have children—it’s your choice. Pursue your passions without hesitation.

Align yourself with what your heart truly desires, and depression and other burdens will diminish.

The same applies to raising children. Stop burdening them with academic expectations to earn your love, validation, and approval. Otherwise, they may grow into adults plagued by self-blame, believing something is inherently wrong with them when, in reality, it’s not.

In the present scenario, people are living a materialistic, hi-tech lifestyle with all high-class amenities but there is no inner peace. What are your experiences and suggestions?

We need to understand that money and peace are unrelated. They are two different concepts. Regardless of the lifestyle you lead—whether it’s extravagant or modest, whether you are surrounded by luxury or not—peace has no correlation with material wealth. True peace comes from within when you are connected to your inner self. Some people earn a lot but still lack peace, while others struggle to meet basic needs yet find peace. Being stress-free, calm, and at ease arises when you focus on yourself rather than worrying about others’ opinions.

abusive relationships. what is your message to them?

The message is clear and loud to all the women out there:

l First, stop being toxic to yourself.

l People around you can only hurt you when you allow them to.

l They can only be mean to you when you allow them.

l They can disrespect you when you allow them to.

l They can be toxic to you when you allow them to.

So stop blaming others and step out of the victim zone. Take charge of your life; take back the power from those who are abusive toward you. Learn to create strong, healthy boundaries so no one can take advantage of your emotional, physical, and mental health.

If you are in an abusive relationship, don’t wait for the right time, as it may never come. If you are waiting for the right people to rescue you, believe me, they may never come. Family and friends can support you, but ultimately, it’s up to you to break free.

Start working on yourself. There are abundant resources in the universe ready to help you. You just have to reach out and grab them. If you are not financially independent, take some time to polish your skills and start earning. Dedicate at least two years to yourself, and trust me, you will be able to earn enough for your survival, enabling you to break free from abusive relationships and live life on your terms, in peace, without compromising your health, dreams, or life.

What is your mission as a life coach and healer?

My mission as a Life Coach and a Healer is to help people come out of toxic relationships, find inner peace, achieve true independence and reclaim power. I want to serve as many people as I can to help them come out of any pain they are going through. I want to serve people with all the knowledge and resources I have so that we all can make this world a happy, peaceful, loving, non-judgemental place to live.

Who inspired you the most in your life?

It’s hard for me to take just one name who inspired me. But I’ll try to take as few as I can.

When I look at women like Sudha Murty, Sushmita Sen, and Priyanka Chopra, these magnificent Goddesses have altogether redefined the meaning of life.

They showed how we could be courageous when it comes to making our careers but at the same time managing family and loved ones with warmth and care.

They showed how one could be resilient and strong when it comes to making their name while staying humble, polite, respectful and loving to people.

They showed us anything is possible if you set your heart and mind to it. You can live your dreams without compromising on spending time with your family and loved ones.

Which is your favourite quote?

I don’t have any specific favourite quotes, but I strongly believe in two principles: ‘Your thoughts create your reality’ and ‘If nothing is working out, the Universe is always working for me.’

I can assure you that throughout my journey of healing and coaching, these two beliefs have been my guiding light. They keep me going through all the ups and downs and help me navigate the challenges I face on a daily basis